It’s not often that you read a book
which you desperately don’t want to end, but Love, Nina is one of them.
Published a few months ago amid an enthusiastic flurry of glittering
endorsements and rave reviews, the book failed to spark any interest in me
until a friend sung the praises of Love, Nina on Facebook… and I gave in and
ordered a copy.
Why was I reluctant? The book is a
collection of letters that Nina Stibbe sent home to her sister Vic over
several years during the early 1980s while Nina was nannying for a family in London. The book sounded so cutesy that it made me fear it would be a
repeat of the horrible Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie
Society episode from a few years back (a collection of - fictional? – letters that was so sickly
sweet it made me want to pull all my teeth out in one go).
Anyway, I was wrong. Love, Nina is not
twee, sickly or tooth-hurty. It is delightful, warm, funny and fascinating in
equal measures.
In 1982, Nina was the new, and ill-equipped, nanny for Mary-Kay Wilmers
(founder and editor of the London Review of Books) and her two sons Sam and
Will (whose father is film director Stephen Frears). You’ll need to get to
grips with the Guardian-esque name-dropping fairly soon because frequent
characters around the Wilmers’ kitchen table include Alan Bennett, Claire
Tomalin and Michael Frayn.
But while the insights into the notoriously
secretive Alan Bennett’s culinary skills are fascinating, it is the simple
exchanges between the eccentric and kindly Mary-Kay, Nina and the boys which is
at the root of this book. The snapshots of conversation that Nina records in
her letters are seemingly irrelevant (about emptying the dishwasher, or how to
swear in German) but happen every day all around the country, yet are lost
forever as most people don’t stop to notice the funny things we say without
trying.
And that is where Love, Nina succeeds so
well – at making the everyday things we do seem so silly.
Postscript:
I can only think of one other book I’ve
read in recent years that has made me feel as warm as this one did and that’s Auntie Mame: An
Irreverent Escapade by Patrick Dennis from 1955 (not read it? Oh, please do).
Yet the book that kept popping into my head while reading Love, Nina was the 1931
novel The Brontes Went To Woolworths by Rachel Ferguson. Why? In Ferguson’s
charming novel the three Carne sisters invent friendships with the Bronte siblings
(as well as a very real local judge) to help them through their everyday problems… and then the real and imaginary worlds come to a head. It’s
a truly wonderful book.